A series where President Ana interviews the Panhellenic Executive Board about their experiences of becoming sorority women.
Nothin’ but the Truth: #RealTalk with the Vice President of Conduct and Integrity, Najare
I always wanted to be in a sorority.
I thought it was a group of women who did everything together, empowered each other, and a place that provided a happy environment. I thought it was going to be a stability piece of my college career. I don’t have any biological sisters and wanted more female interaction through college. I saw all the movies about it.
In my senior year of high school, a teacher of mine was a Panhellenic woman who was actively involved in her chapter, serving as Chapter President. After she found out I wanted to go through Recruitment after graduating, she talked to me about it and told me about her experiences. That conversation solidified that choice for me to join sorority life. I was literally an eager beaver and signed up on the first day that the registration link was available.
Tell me about your Recruitment process and what that was like for you.
My recruitment process was overwhelming and very nerve-wracking. I went through with my roommate and convinced someone who was moving into a dorm to go through recruitment with me. We basically did everything together, like waking up in the mornings to get ready and calming each other down. They had no idea what sorority life was, so I felt like the information that I learned, I could pass down to them. I felt like my Pi Chis were a big part in helping me feel comfortable because the first day I was wearing pants—Big. Yellow. Pants.— gaucho type of pants, and they assured me that it was okay to step out and wear what you want to wear. They assured me that the chapters would accept me on our connection and not what I was wearing. That made the days easier and made it easier for me to talk to the women with those thoughts in the back of my head. I met a lot of women in my Pi Chi group that would later join the Panhellenic community that I didn’t know at the time would really impact my Panhellenic experience later on.
What helped you decide where you wanted to go?
My Pi Chis were angels. I was going to withdraw from the process. They just told me that it takes time to get involved in a chapter and just because you fell love with one chapter, doesn’t mean you can’t get involved with the overall Panhellenic community. After talking to them and other Recruitment Guides for additional perspective, I was able to sit down and rank down the final two chapter that I had.
What made you stay after joining?
I think what made me stay was getting involved in my chapter, taking on a position, and meeting and getting to know everyone in my new member class. Not much to it, that was that.
What have you gotten out of sorority life since joining?
I know I’ve gotten out a lot of public speaking skills. I’ve always been quite outgoing, but little did they know that public speaking terrifies me.
I’ve also learned that not everything is not how it seems and it’s not a bad thing. When I joined my sorority, I thought it was going to be like the movies, such as doing EVERYTHING together, the stress-free nature of getting academics completed (THANKS, LEGALLY BLONDE), and the dynamics of an all-girl powered friendship group. It taught me how to communicate better, it taught me how to reach out to different people for a variety of interests because not every person does the same thing or does everything together like I thought.
It’s still teaching me how to balance things, too. From someone who was in IB, worked, held leadership positions, and other commitments, it was a different type of balance that I am still trying to manage with the help of my sorority.
What are you looking forward to and excited for this recruitment?
I’m excited to be on the other side of recruitment and help PNMs find their home like my Pi Chis had helped me find mine. I didn’t realize how much the behind-the-scenes would affect the grand scheme of recruitment.
Any final thoughts?
You signed up for a reason, so, stick through it. There’re good days, there’re bad days. The reason of why you signed up will be apparent. You will find the answer in the end.
You know what I mean? The light will shine at the end of the tunnel.